4 Ways to Show Your Spouse You Appreciate Them

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If you’re anything like me, you’re always looking for a way to show your spouse how much you love and appreciate them. Sometimes this is actually a difficult thing to do! Not because we don’t love or appreciate them, but because we let other things get in the way and distract us!

When I think of the ways my husband shows me he appreciates me, it is very often found in the things he doesn’t say. Shakespeare said “They do not love that do not show their love”, and the same exact thing goes for gratitude!

So here are 4 ways to show your spouse you appreciate them…. without actually saying it!

1. Observe and then serve.

I got that phrase from Linda K. Burton. And it is totally true! Has your spouse been meaning to wash their car? File some papers? Heck, have they even been meaning to do the dishes or fold that batch of laundry? Find what they need help with and just do it!

You get bonus points for not pointing out that you did it. Think of it as “Secret service”!

2. Think of something simple that they like, then surprise them with it!

This is such a huge one for me! I absolutely love love love love loveeeeee when Kevin does this, he actually did this very thing last night! He came home and brought along some deliciously warm Cheese Bread. I had not asked him to do it. I had not mentioned it lately. He just did it.

3. Write them a cute note

I made it a goal this year to write Kevin a cute little note each month this year. Whether it is on a sticky note telling him to have a great day, or sticking an index card in notebook for him to find later…. I mean come on, who doesn’t appreciate a pick-me-up note? If you’d like to be a little fancier, you can make your own!



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4.  Greet them with a huge hug and smile (not a to-do list)

I’m guilty of this! Sometimes when my husband comes home ,the first thing that comes out of my mouth is not “I missed you”, or even “Hi”. Most of the time it is phrases like “I need you to do this”, or “What took you so long”, or even “I can’t believe you forgot to do this”.

Next time your spouse comes home, take a moment, think, breathe, smile, give them a hug, and then open your mouth.

These are some of the ways I’ve found to help Kevin feel appreciated (or even the other way around sometimes)! What are some things you would add?

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  1. Thanks for sharing, needed these tips!
    I feel like I am doing what I need to show love but its not enough! Will try the notes and doing a few things he needs. It works both ways, and I only hope he can see and reciprocate!

    Xx Angela

    1. Thank you Angela! There are always a ton of different ways to show love, and I’m sure you’re doing just fine! The trick is finding something that works for you and then sticking to it 🙂

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